A friend of mine was very saddened by the fact that his child was born with Down (or Down’s) Syndrome. For anyone unfamiliar with this condition, Down Syndrome is the most common cause of mental retardation and malformation in a newborn. A genetic disorder, it occurs because of the presence of an extra chromosome. I think we all can identify with the anguish that my friend, his spouse, and his family must have experienced and continues to face. I remained silent for awhile, because I did not know what to say and yet I kept wondering why was it that my friend and his wife, two of the nicest and most capable people I have ever met, would be faced with this situation. What was God´s plan?
My mind began to envision what I can only describe as a conversation with God. I needed to understand why things like this happen to good and kind people. I don’t know if it’s just me, but every person or couple I have ever met who has a special-needs child, one who is born with Down Syndrome, Autism, or any other restrictive condition, are the greatest parents you could know.
Suddenly, I imagined appearing in the middle of a conversation, where God was talking with his assistant. He said he needed to deliver all of the babies for the day . . . and then I heard what would later come as my answer: ” We have 400,000 children to deliver today but we only have four special ones” – Have you checked the list?” And God’s assistant quickly replied: “Yes sir, we have the best of the best.” God went over the list as he nodded. “Yes, we have selected the right ones,” He said.
“We will deliver all the babies without restrictive medical conditions — the ones that are known on Earth as “normal.” Then we will deliver our four special children to the four wonderful sets of parents.” – God paused for a moment – “At first, they might feel like we are punishing them, but soon they will realize that they were chosen because they were the best people for giving the love and care required to these special children.”
I don’t know if this was really a conversation with God, or if my mind was just making up a scenario that I desperately wanted to believe in, but it felt absolutely real to me. We always hear about “my fucked up parents” from normal children — not all, but some. How many times have you heard a special-needs child refer to his or her parents in that way? None that I know of.
It must be a very difficult situation for these parents to accept. I am sure it can make one upset and cause parents to wonder what they have done wrong to deserve this, but rest assured you were selected for a reason, and that reason is none other than the fact that you are the best person for that special angel.
Take good care of him or her and be proud you were the chosen one. God is right beside you. I just know it.